Looking For Family Advice

I apologize again for being absent. Life has been crazy for me. I haven’t even had a chance to read all the amazing things you all have been writing about. I feel awful that I’ve been silent for quite a while.

My hope is to turn that around and get back on track. But life doesn’t seem to be slowing down for me.

I am looking for some advice though if anyone is able to help me out. My mother got hip replacement surgery last Monday the 15 and is going into a depression. She is getting frustrated that she is not able to really do anything other than sit or lay down. She wants to be productive but is unable to. She has always been a busy body. She was 300 pounds 6 years ago and has lost 150 pounds. I am so proud of her. She’s terrified that she will gain all that weight back.

Is there anything that I can do with her to get her active or make her feel productive? She needs something. I am scared of what will happen if she continues to slip into this depression.

All help and advice is greatly appreciated and encouraged. Thank you for reading this post. I hope you all had a fabulous Easter.

Back To Real Life After An Amazing Five Days.

Last Friday I set off at 2:30 in the morning to Syracuse to catch a flight to Philadelphia. From there, I caught a flight to Puerto Rico where I spent 5 amazing days. I have never really travelled too much so this was a once in a lifetime opportunity for me. I would definitely go there again. Anyone who has not been should put it on their bucket list.

My husband and I stayed at the Whyndam Grand Rio Mar resort. It is a 4 star resort and they have definitely earned every star. We spent 5 days on the beach taking in the tropical sun and relaxing our stress away. I was sad to leave because my life as a full time stay at home mom of 3 is stressful and busy. There are schedules and routines to follow. House work that needs to be done. Just too much stuff for one person realistically to handle. I enjoyed taking time to do nothing but enjoy each other’s presence.

I spent a lot of time talking to the locals and they helped me realize that I need to take a step back and slow down. Life is too short to constantly be stressed. I am going to challenge myself in my journey to happiness to slow down and enjoy life.

This was my view from my hotel room. I sat out on my balcony every morning just enjoying the sights and the sounds.

Challenge yourself to travel and see the world. Money returns but time does not.

Have a blessed Wednesday.

Still Working Hard

On Monday I had my first article published which is amazing and super exciting. It was a collaborated article with an amazingly talented writer.

Today I got my first individual article written. This is such an amazing journey. I never thought I’d ever be living my dream of being a published writer. I’m on cloud nine and nothing can get me down.

Please give it a read. I hope you enjoy and I can’t wait to hear some feedback.

https://www.readunwritten.com/2019/04/04/what-wish-known-before-pregnant/

A Successful Birthday Party

Yesterday was the birthday party for my son and daughter. I chose this year that I would make all the decorations for them. I was up until about 2:30 Yesterday morning finishing up but I got them all done. They came out so good.

My kids and all the guests had such a good time. Usually my family and my in-laws don’t get along the greatest, but yesterday it was amazing! I am so happy that everything went smoothly.

I can’t believe another year has come and gone. It really is true that time flies. My kids are getting way too big and independent. It is a good thing of course, but it’s kind of sad too. I miss them being so tiny.

How was your weekend? Any fun stories to share?

Practicing Some Self Love

I have always been told that in order to be a good mother I must first take care of myself. That always sounded so silly to me. I never understood how it would matter whether I got to shower that day or got to go for that run I’ve been longing for or being able to sit down and eat a hot meal. I have spent every waking minute for the past 5 and a half years putting all my energy into my kids.

Today my husband encouraged me to take part in my sister’s strength and conditioning class which I haven’t gone to in over 2 months. I am here to tell you that taking care of yourself as a mother is so important. The hour and a half I spent working out felt absolutely amazing. I didn’t have any kids climbing on me or asking me to get them anything. I was able to breath and focus on myself. I am not a selfish person and will drop everything for my family, but it felt wonderful to have some selfish minutes to myself. When I got home I felt revived and ready to take on the world. I have been needing a break for so long especially since my husband was doing some much needed construction on our house and was unavailable to help take care of our angels.

I don’t want to sound ungrateful. I am ecstatic to have my kids. They are my greatest blessings, but sometimes mommy needs some time to feel human. It’s nice to be around adults and not just talk to little people about potty training and Paw Patrol.

Taking care of ourselves should be our #1 priority. We are not our best selves when we are drained and feel like our identities. Our kids are important, but so are we.

My challenge to everyone even if you don’t have kids, do something for yourself even if it’s something as small as taking a 30 minute shower. Love yourself in order to fully love others. ❤️

Feeling Content

I have been spending the last almost 4 months doing for myself. This includes writing. By having this blog and being a hired writer for an online blog, I am held accountable and am sort of forced to write more often than I used to. This is such a great thing for me. Before I would only write when I had free time which meant once every few months. As you can imagine, this was quite devastating since I am a writer through and through.

Today after submitting an article that I wrote I had such a feeling of content and accomplishment. The things I am writing now are not just for myself. They are getting published for the world to see. This is both frightening and exciting. I don’t want negative feedback, but at the same time feedback is always good even if it’s negative.

In addition to writing for this blog, I am also a social media editor where I post articles to social media to spread the word. This is pretty exciting as well. I am gaining so much experience that will help me tremendously as I continue on my writing and personal journey to find myself.

Things are going so great for me right now. I’m like on cloud nine over here. I feel silly for being this happy about something so small, but this is such a big deal. As I have been told by many people, celebrate every moment no matter how small. Well that advice is something I have made a rule for myself this year. I will gladly celebrate every single moment even the small things because they mean so much.

On a different note, I have still yet to finish the decorations for my children’s birthday party which is next weekend😱😅. That is the plan for this weekend since I finished writing my article today. I’ll take a day break before starting the next article.

What plans do you all have for this weekend? I was hoping to get outside to do yard work but the snow we got today changed that, so I will be inside for a majority of the weekend. Have an amazing weekend. 💕

Happy First Day of Spring

I love the coming of spring. I don’t have a favorite season, but I love when the seasons first change. There is always an almost magical feeling when the seasons are first changing. Spring is a very beautiful time of year when everything starts coming back to life after a cold winter.

Spring brings so many wonderful things. First it’s warmer so I can spend hours outside. My kids enjoy going to park and going for walks. We still do this in the winter but it’s much harder because some days are bitter cold. I am also looking forward to planting my garden. It’s going to be wonderful to see my yard come back to life. I am looking forward to starting my mornings with the many animals that visit my yard. My kids love to help feed the birds, rabbits, squirrels, and chipmunks. We also have deer that pass through, a fox family that visits every summer, and a ground hog that likes to stay for a short while. There are numerous neighborhood cats that like to nap in our front yard in the sun.

Spring brings a feeling of new beginnings and happiness. I may not have a favorite season, but I do look forward to the nice weather.

What is your favorite season?

Happy Tuesday!

Hello! Happy Tuesday! I’m in an unusually good mood today. I feel like I shouldn’t be in such a rare mood after the last 2 days I’ve had.

Yesterday morning my oldest son was completely fine when he woke up. After he was all ready for school he started complaining he was too hot. I checked him over and his entire body was red and itchy. After taking Benadryl and being seen by the doctor, they concluded he had a hives like allergic reaction to something. We still have no idea what caused it. After he took the Benadryl in the morning it went away and he was fine for the rest of the day. This morning his cheeks were blotchy but after another dose of Benadryl it went away and he was fine for the rest of the day.

My youngest son woke up this morning completely fine then just before we went to take my oldest to school he started complaining he was too hot. I looked him over and he looked exactly like my oldest son looked yesterday. I gave him some Benadryl and called the doctors. They did not have me come in today because they had just seen my oldest for the same thing so they told me to use Benadryl as needed and keep an eye on it. After he took a 2 and a half hour nap he was fine.

We have no idea what he had an allergic reaction to either. It came out of nowhere. But, even with all of this going on I am still in an amazing mood. I have no idea. Maybe it’s the spring weather getting me. I’m so happy warm nice weather is here to stay now. My kids have been enjoying being able to get outside. I am looking forward to starting my garden in a couple months. First, I have to clean up my yard from the winter.

What is the first thing you all do when spring comes? I do a thorough spring cleaning of my house on the inside then I clean up the yard. What are you looking forward to the most with spring finally being here?

I Apologize For Getting Overwhelmed

I want to start by apologizing for not posting in over a week. I am not one to make excuses so I will be honest. I have gritted overwhelmed with planning my children’s combined birthday party, dog sitting for my mom, helping my sister while she transitions to a new building for her business, and being a mother of 3. I’m not a single mother but my husband works long hours so it feels like I’m a single parent. I have been so busy with everything that most days I am not home all day. I have been running myself ragged and have unfortunately suffered the consequences. I have a cold that is just draining me because I can’t seem to get any rest. My daughter caught a cold as well so I have not been able to get any sleep.

Anyone who has kids or grandkids understands the struggle of being sick while your kids are sick. It’s impossible to heal while you’re trying to get them to heal. Because of being so busy, overwhelmed, and sick I have not been able to do much party planning or anything for myself. I wanted to use this year to find myself and do things for me. The more I try to stay strong to my resolution the more I seem to fail. Something always comes up and being a parent takes to much time and focus. It truly is hard to live your own life as a parent.

I love my children to death and I love my family. I would do anything for all of them and they know that. I didn’t realize how difficult and challenging my resolution was going to be. I don’t regret my resolution and will continue to try and stay strong. I feel like I need 8 more hours in a day so I can do everything that needs to be done. Living life for the moment is so hard. I am not complaining because my life is pretty great.

Again, I am so sorry for being MIA. I need to get more organized or find a way to fit everything in.

Does anyone have any tips as to how they manage their time? Any secrets to success?